Here in the UK, and hot on the heels of International Women’s Day its Mothering Sunday. Teacher will have been in overdrive this week making sure each member of the class left school on Friday with a home made card or gift for their Mums this morning. Retailers have been pushing their own ideas of Mothers Day gifts. But ultimately for many people today will be about giving and receiving care.
For others, and maybe you’re one of them, it won’t be the case. Stories of mothering and being mothered aren’t your experience and there could be a myriad of reasons for that. Days like Mothering Sunday emphasises the feeling that there’s something missing from your life, it permeates and puts a strain on your adult relationships, potentially family life.Feelings of loss are quite often central to the therapeutic work that I do with adult clients who report feelings like sadness, anxiety, or depression and sometimes it takes a while to dig out the root cause.
Useful resources for giving support for some of the more obvious causes of loss are:
Cruse Bereavement Care, UK’s largest bereavement charity offering specific bereavement counselling (low cost ) Cruse.org.uk
Child Bereavement UK. This charity gives specific support to families who have lost a child, or to a child who is facing bereavement. Childbereavementuk.org.
Adoptionuk.org. A leading charity in the UK providing support, awareness and understanding for those parenting or supporting children who cannot live with their birth parents.